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Fella's would you were an engagement ring? Watch the video:

http://abcnews.go.com/video/playerIndex?id=9060782
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Um... so do they still wear it after they get the wedding band too? That seems like a bit much wearing two thick bands on one finder, it doesn't work like that wit female engagement rings.

I'm not buying the theory about men wanting diamonds too. They can get diamonds on their band. Hell i dunno someone explain it to me.
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Laughing Laughing

I wouldn't buy an engagement ring for a man, are you kidding? Laughing
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A mangagement ring should be for a man who is engaged to another MAN
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I ain't buyin shit for no nigga! Confused
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The advertisement was too long but I can get the gist.

This is directed specifically to Kimora but folks can chime in. It was Kimora that I learned about some 3 months salary (dont' know if thats gross or net btw) rule for what an engagement ring should cost right??

Now how that was determined is another discussion in itself. Also I understand most chics being married is something they've been dreaming about since 5.

But my question is do folks REALLY think thats the best way to spend between $7K-15K? I personally know couples who have spent that much on some bullschit jewelry but still don't own a home. I mean for real people have we gotten that fuck'd up?? I'm just asking
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Well, of course, I don't think I'd ever be in the position to buy an engagement ring that costs that much (Wink), but I can understand a female's desire to have a ring that is of substantial quality/cost because of what it "represents". I get that. This would be the one time where "bling" couldn't be too gaudy...but on the other hand, the ring should also be in some type of accord to your lifestyle. And one has to remember it's only jewelry and has nothing to do with the actual relationship...it's not indicative of the dude's level of love for you or how much faith he has in the marriage "surviving" Laughing
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I don't even want a real ring. I can't stand things on my fingers for extended periods of time and I can't keep up with anything. Like my Mom says, "you'd lose your head if it wasn't attached."

I'll take some diamoniques ... Laughing Laughing Laughing
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[color=darkred]Marz...it used to be ONE month's salary. To me, that is self explanatory...it's symbolic of the provision the man provides. It's only in the brrr icey BLING era that it's ballooned up to 3 month's salary.

A quarter's earnings?? GTFOH!!! You spend that on a fucking CAR.[/color]
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[quote="MrHardcandy"][color=darkred]Marz...[b]it used to be ONE month's salary[/b]. To me, that is self explanatory...it's symbolic of the provision the man provides. It's only in the brrr icey BLING era that it's ballooned up to 3 month's salary.

A quarter's earnings?? GTFOH!!! You spend that on a fucking CAR.[/color][/quote]

When was that? Seriously, I have always heard 3 months. Even when I was a teen I heard the same thing, 3 months or more.
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I'd rather have the down payment on the house. Damn a ring. Laughing
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[color=darkred]Well, I always heard a month's salary growing up. Even current MAINSTREAM myth is 2 months' salary. It's only in BLING culture that 3 months' salary is "ideal".[/color]
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[quote="westphilly37"]I'd rather have the down payment on the house. Damn a ring. Laughing[/quote]

Ditto. Laughing Laughing
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[quote="Marz"]The advertisement was too long but I can get the gist.

This is directed specifically to Kimora but folks can chime in. It was Kimora that I learned about some 3 months salary (dont' know if thats gross or net btw) rule for what an engagement ring should cost right??

Now how that was determined is another discussion in itself. Also I understand most chics being married is something they've been dreaming about since 5.

But my question is do folks REALLY think thats the best way to spend between $7K-15K? I personally know couples who have spent that much on some bullschit jewelry but still don't own a home. I mean for real people have we gotten that fuck'd up?? I'm just asking[/quote]

If there is going to be an issue and drama over a doggone ring then dude can't afford to get married period........
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I understand where you're coming from but you do agree you're speaking for yourself right??

I'm not criticizing you because that may be whats more important to you and thats fine. You'll meet a guy who wants to do that. It's just my take that the money could be much better spent and that rings generally are westernized things that are used to symbolize a union.
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When I was younger I thought differently about a ring. I wanted X amount of carats, etc, etc.

That crap doesn't matter much to me today. It's jewelry. I don't really even like jewelry like that anyway. My Mom recently bought me diamond earrings (that I begged for LAST year) for my 30th birthday and I think I may have worn them twice since I got them. Confused
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[quote="Marz"]I understand where you're coming from but you do agree you're speaking for yourself right??

I'm not criticizing you because that may be whats more important to you and thats fine. You'll meet a guy who wants to do that. It's just my take that the money could be much better spent and that rings generally are westernized things that are used to symbolize a union.[/quote]

I just want to live my life and enjoy it......I don't want to penny pinch on every single doggone thing.......everything doesn't always have to be logical........sometimes you just want to be happy and have something that you want. I want a ring.
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[quote="kimora"]
I just want to live my life and enjoy it......I don't want to penny pinch on every single doggone thing.......everything doesn't always have to be logical........sometimes you just want to be happy and have something that you want. I want a ring.[/quote]

I hear you but do you think some people put more interest and value in the ring and wedding than they put in the actual marriage?

It's like the saying of doing something that you love for free ... That's sort of how I equate good relationships. You'd do it for nothing because you love the person ... so who cares about a ring??

Right? Laughing
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[quote="Rock Star"][quote="kimora"]
I just want to live my life and enjoy it......I don't want to penny pinch on every single doggone thing.......everything doesn't always have to be logical........sometimes you just want to be happy and have something that you want. I want a ring.[/quote]

I hear you but do you think some people put more interest and value in the ring and wedding than they put in the actual marriage?

It's like the saying of doing something that you love for free ... That's sort of how I equate good relationships. You'd do it for nothing because you love the person ... so who cares about a ring??

Right? Laughing[/quote]

Oh don't get me wrong ....I would never spend thousands upon thousands on a wedding. I just think that is ridiculous.....I know of a couple who spent over $100K on the wedding in September of 2008 and are now filing for divorce......

A young lady in my office ran through her 401K in order to pay for her wedding.......they are now separated as well.

Truth be told I'd be happily have a Soul Train line Themed wedding in Vegas lol lol lol..........HOWEVER I always wanted a beautiful platinum ring.

Would I be disappointed if homeboy couldn't afford to purchase that particular kind of ring? "yes"

Would I refuse to marry this man I am in love with because he got me a diamond?...."no"...
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Ok. That's fair.
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